A miscarriage is one of the hardest times a family can face. If you’ve had a miscarriage, your feeling of loss is great, and rightfully so. Miscarriages, or spontaneous abortions, only happen in 10%-25% of pregnancies. Their cause can be attributed to a number of things, such as maternal health problems, maternal trauma, improper implantation, unhealthy lifestyle and maternal age. Whatever the cause, they are always unexpected and heartbreaking. Most happen within the first trimester, so the excitement and preparations quickly come to an end as the family begins to grieve.

Many women that have suffered a miscarriage wonder if and when their bodies might be ready to try again. Luckily, a previous miscarriage has no effect on a future pregnancy as long as the cause for the miscarriage was not a health problem. After you’ve had your miscarriage, your doctor will perform a number of tests to determine whether or not a disease or condition spurred it. You’ll be tested for serious conditions such as Lupus. As long as there are no underlying health problems, experts recommend that you’ll be physically ready in two to three months, but emotionally ready after a full year. If you’re thinking of trying to conceive soon after your miscarriage, you should consider seeing a therapist to cope with your loss. If you jump right into another without grieving, you could develop serious problems that will be passed on to your child. You might feel resentment at his or her chance at life, and you might panic every time he or she gets sick or stays quiet.

Your chances of having another miscarriage after your first are slim, an 85% of women in the situation go on to have a successful pregnancy. Your second pregnancy might be emotionally trying and bittersweet because it will bring up memories of the past. However, you should request that your doctor monitors your pregnancy extra carefully to expel any added fears you might have.

Having a healthy baby and successful pregnancy after a miscarriage is entirely possible as long as you feel emotionally and physically ready. If you feel as though you’re struggling with the emotions, either during your second attempt or after your first miscarriage, talk to your health care provider about support groups and specialists that can help you. Many women have gone through it, so there’s no reason that you should bear the burden alone.

Source: Mayumi Sugiura-Ogasawara et al: Live Birth Rate According to Maternal Age and Previous Number of Recurrent Miscarriages. American Journal of Reproductive Immunology Volume 62, Issue 5, pages 314–319, November 2009