Once conception occurs men typically think of the pregnancy as being a female “thing.” Women carry the baby for the duration of the pregnancy, so the donation of one (or more) sperm to the fertilization of the egg is the only real connection a man has with birth –right? Well, not exactly. Men are responsible for exactly one-half of the genetic make-up of the zygote (pre-fetus) and that means men are theoretically responsible for one-half of most miscarriages. Natural miscarriage typically happens when there is a problem with the genetic code of the zygote or fetus. The body notices the problem and expels the baby before a more serious problem can develop. This natural selection process is just part of procreation, but women are not solely responsible for selection. If the problem occurred due to an abnormality from the male side of conception (sperm) then the man would be responsible for the miscarriage.
Placing Blame Doesn’t Solve the Problem
There is nothing that can be done to prevent a miscarriage associated with natural selection. The human body is an excellent judge of character and flaws, if left unchecked, may develop into serious medical issues that cause stillbirth or late pregnancy miscarriage if natural selection did not occur soon after conception. It is estimated that up to 75% of all pregnancies end in natural miscarriage before a woman ever knows she pregnant, so blaming the man is not going to solve anything, but understanding that both men and women are to blame, on a genetic level, can ease some of the stress women feel when they hold the entire weight of a miscarriage on their own shoulders.
What Can a Man Do?
Healthy sperm come from healthy men; eat right, exercise and stay positive about life. If a miscarriage does occur in your relationship, remind her that it is not her fault. Talk with a fertility specialist about genetic screening if miscarriages are recurring as there could be a chromosome problem causing the repeated pregnancy loss.