You’ve been waiting more than nine long months to be a mom, and your time has finally arrived. It’s everything you’d hoped it would be and more, and no matter how stressed you get, the frustration melts away when you look into your newborns loving eyes. While this feeling of absolute satisfaction will last a long time, there might come a day when you simply cannot keep holding your baby 24/7, and that’s perfectly okay. In this situation, it’s time to pull out the Boppy pillow. You might have gotten this pillow from a relative at the baby shower, and it really is an excellent product. At first glance, it looks more like a big travel pillow. In fact, that’s exactly what I thought it was at the last baby shower I attended. However, it’s actually designed to gently mimic your arms to that your baby can lie down on his or her own without rolling around or feeling abandoned. Unfortunately, it’s not uncommon for moms to realize that their babies get a little too comfortable in the Boppy pillow.

Once your little one gets used to the surrounding comfort of a Boppy pillow, he or she will feel very alone and cold in the crib or bassinet. In fact, any time you take him or her away from the Boppy, a crying fit might ensue. Clearly, this is counterproductive at bedtime.

Some new moms realize that their baby only sleeps when the Boppy pillow is around them, so they resort to leaving it in the crib for naptime. This is absolutely, one hundred percent, not the solution. Leaving any type of unsecured pillow in a bed or bassinet with your baby is extremely unsafe and directly associated with SIDS. A Boppy pillow especially could easily shift when your baby moves and become placed directly in front of your baby’s face, which will cause suffocation.

If your baby seems to have trouble sleeping without a Boppy pillow, just letting him use it is probably the worst thing you can do. Instead, try investing in a positioning pillow. It will keep your baby comfortable, but attaches to the crib and is specifically designed to keep babies safe during sleep. Even if you think you’ll leave the room temporarily while the baby is napping with a Boppy pillow, that temporary moment is enough time for your baby to suffocate, so don’t risk it.

Source: Anne Galperin: Maternal Divide: Non-Human Actors as Mediators of Space Between Mothers and Young Children. State University of New York at New Paltz