Many men feel they have women all figured out when it comes to how to pleasure them in the bedroom. Experience and multiple partners do not correlate to every situation, however. When a man believes he knows what his woman wants, he is making the biggest mistake of his sexual life. If there is one certainty in sex, it is that every woman, man and situation is different. From one day to the next, sexual intercourse and foreplay needs will change. This is true even in long-term relationships. Men may believe they have figured out the best way to please their woman, but changes in life, work, stress levels and physical size can affect sex and pleasure dramatically.
Men are more apt to learn what they know about sex from adult movies and magazines. Unfortunately, men fail to realize that these actors can spend hours on a set posing for each frame. Physical intercourse shots are often recorded and looped so the action looks like it lasts forever, when it probably lasted only a few short moments.
Mistake #1: Men Know What Women Want
No two women are the same and no two sexual situations are the same. Just because the last woman in your life enjoyed a specific action in the bedroom does not mean this woman will enjoy the same thing. Even in long-term relationships, women often change their mind about what they want in the bedroom based upon changes in everyday life. When men believe they understand women and what they want in the bedroom, they are walking straight into making sexual mistakes. So, instead of assuming you know what she wants, ask her what she wants!
Mistake #2: You Have Everything You Need For Her to Reach Orgasm
Gentlemen, not every woman will reach orgasm easily. Some women require more than 2,500 repetitions per minute in order to reach clitoral orgasm. There is no man alive that can move his tongue or finger that fast. A vibrator is a common solution. There are also women who prefer to self satisfy to orgasm during intercourse. This does not mean she isn’t in to you. It just means she knows what she likes and that is what makes her sexually happy.
Mistake #3: Men and Women Feel the Same Things During Sex
Men are inserting their penis into the vagina during sex and the feeling is phenomenal. However, for women, the receiving end, the sensation does not feel the same. The inside of the vagina is far less sensitive than the skin on the penis. Compound this with the feeling of being pushed in the stomach if the penis is too long and nausea (not orgasm) may result. Women get more pleasure from cuddling and caressing the outer sexual ares than the inner.
Taking to heart these simple realities may change the way a man feels about sex. While life experience may give a man confidence in the bedroom, that experience does not prepare a man for every sexual situation. Each woman will have different needs, and each sexual situation will be unique. If it were any different, sex would get boring very quickly.