From the time I was 15, I knew I wanted to be a mother. I had my entire life planned out. I would have five or six children by the time I was 30 and raise them all at the same time. By the time I was 50 I would be preparing for grandparenthood and fixing Sunday dinners for everyone. My sister, on the other hand, never really wanted children at all. She had one child and then stopped having children. She raised her one child and was happy with the life she chose. No two women are alike and not all women want children.
Why do Some Women Choose to Skip Motherhood?
There is no clear answer to this question. Some experts theorize that mother/daughter relationships play an important part in the desire to have children; others theorize testosterone levels in the womb and body play a part in maternal instinct. Theories are all that exist as there is no clear reason why some women choose to have children and others live life without a single desire to procreate.
Childless by Choice
There are a growing number of women who choose to live childless by choice. In the 1970s, about 10% of women chose to skip motherhood, but by the late 2000s that number had grown to 20%. More women are choosing career, travel, education and love over parenthood and these women/couples are happy with that decision.
At the end of the day there are many different kinds of women. There are women like me who always wanted to have lots of children and a huge family and women like my sister who never wanted to have children. Even among women who choose to have children there are variances. The Duggar family, for instance, has 19 children, but I stopped at four. I wanted a huge family and the Duggars wanted a huge family, but we approached that need differently. I felt complete after four and Mrs. Duggar was only limited by age and medical circumstances. Every woman is different.