How to Be a Good Father to Your Baby

    Being a good father to your baby is not as daunting as it can seem. Yes, being a good father takes work, but it is a work with rewards better than any dollar could ever bring. With a little common sense and a good sense of commitment, it can be one of the most rewarding things that one has ever done. 

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    The first step of being a good father is to simply be there. Infants need their father figure. Toddlers need their father. Every age group needs their father. Simply paying support or running out on the mother and baby are considered the worst things that one can do. It is understandable if the mother and father do not agree, but the father should still make an effort to be a part of the baby’s life. 

    While being there is a big thing, what a man does while he is there is equally as big. If the man is there, but does not interact with the baby, then he may as well not even be there.  If he is not going to take on the responsibilities of the child rearing process, such as changing diapers and feeding, then he is simply taking up space and paying for the space.

    Patience is another big thing in the fathering of a baby. Babies are not pre-equipped with language. They have to learn their parent’s language. This can be a very frustrating time for everyone. However, anger and frustration should not be shown the child for his or her lack of understanding. Anger and frustration can be damaging to the child’s ability to learn the meaning of things and can set a child back even further.

    Anger management is another big thing to remember in being a good father. Yes, exhaustion is very trying and yes, the baby may cry all night. However, that does not give anyone the right to be mad at that baby. Aggression towards the baby can be fatal to something so small. Anger management is an absolute must in being a good father.  If anger is a problem, seek anger management classes and walk away and leave the care to the mother while learning to control the anger.

    Self-control is the final big pointer to being a good father. Self control goes beyond anger and patience. Self control means kicking any habits that may be harmful to the baby and beginning a life that is healthy and that is productive. If the baby should not be doing those things, then it is the responsibility of the father to ensure that the baby is not exposed to the things. This includes excessive smoking, drinking, or the partaking of illegal substances. 

    As shown, it is not providing presents or dollars that makes a man a good father. It is the interactions and conduct of the man around his baby that makes a man a good father.  While these can be challenging tasks at times, the rewards of watching that baby grow into a beautiful young man or woman are well worth the difficulties of raising that life.